Month: July 2020

EVERYTHING IS THE WAY YOU THINK

“You become what you digest into your spirit. Whatever you think about, focus on, read about, and talk about, you’re going to attract more of into your life. Make sure they’re all positive.”                           ― Germany Kent

We all are different from each other and that is too in our own way because we all have different perspective about the things, we all react differently in different situations and we all have different way of treating peoples and giving importance to something and setting our priorities. Exactly like that we all have different visions and missions in our life and all this is because of our thinking process. Our life is all about the way we think.

Our way of living the life depends on what we think in our mind and how we see the life and what decision we make in life which are wholly influenced by our thought process. And most important our thought process is highly influenced by the environment in which we live and by the peoples we are surrounded with and their thinking, by our habits, by our inspirations. Our family also plays a very important role in our life such as our values and beliefs that we follow in life is somewhere are given by our family and it effects our thinking as our thinking is influenced by the values and ethics that we follow in life.

There are some peoples who thinks that life should be smooth going and they go with the flow of life, they are not ready to accept any complications and struggles in life, they are happy with whatever life is giving to them. They don’t have any desires and aims in life and it is because of their thinking which is limited to their values and beliefs which they follow and there are some peoples who are just want to grow and achieve something in life and they are not satisfied with what they have. This is just because their thought process is wide and their thought process get effected by each and everything that is going on in front of them. They inspire their thoughts from everything which they do, it may be reading or watching someone achieving something great and it may be their dreams, it may be a movie or series, it may be any incident, it may be any person.

Thinking may be negative or positive. There are peoples who see negative every time in everything. They are habitual of using words such as No, I can’t etc and this is because they think negative, their thoughts are limited to these words and they are so lazy and resist to change that they even don’t try to get over of this myth that life is going to be easy and smooth for them if they will not widen their thinking process and if they will not come out of their comfort box. And these kind of people struggle the whole life without achieving anything in their life thinking that they are happy and living easy life but this is not the reality. And on the other hand there are people who think before each and every action and who are not afraid of struggles and complications if they want to achieve something and want to do something in their life because they have such thinking process that they will do it for sure or even if it does not work then it is also fine because at least they tried and made themselves satisfied by doing that. It was not result in success but it gave them learning and experience. These kind of peoples are adaptable to different situations and ready to make changes in their thinking process according to requirement, surrounding and environment when needed. Someone rightly said that-

You are not a real thinker if your thoughts haven’t landed you in trouble yet”

What I want to say in whole discussion was just that what we do and what we will do in our life is just guided by our thoughts. Our actions are just the representation of our thinking process so, wherever you are in your life and what you are is just the result of the way you think. So you just need to remove the words “NO”, “I can’t” from your thinking and need to come out of your comfort box. It is your thinking that can make you the better person. Your thinking may lead you to the destination which you have dreamed off. Or sometimes your thinking becomes your identity and it makes you unique from others.

“LIFE IS ALL ABOUT THE WAY YOU THINK”, So think positive it will lead you towards the positive and happy life.

GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION

“Give yourself permission to immediately walk away from anything that gives you bad vibes.”

We all have two different life, a professional life and a personal life and both are extremely different from each other but perfectly correlated with one another i.e. if something is happening in professional life then it will surely impact your personal life to some extent and it depends on your personality that what kind of person you are in carrying both life’s together. What I think is that the ultimate goal behind everything that we do in our life is just to have a peaceful and happy life. But having peaceful and happy life is fucking difficult, sometimes we actually lose our all hopes and desires of being happy as being happy is like an impossible in today’s world and we ourselves are the reason for making our life complicated.

We are busy in living our life in a way that is making our life complicated and leading us to the path on which we will get nothing but depression, frustration, regrets, and demotivation for the rest of our life and so on. We are busy in forming so much expectations before actions, busy in pleasing other, copying others rather than becoming best version of ourselves, and concentrating on what others are doing in their life than concentrating on our own life and we are in making others happy and avoiding our own happiness and scared of what others and the society will think if we will choose what we actually wants to do i.e. our own happiness. The same case is with the relations as we make so many relations in our life at different point of times and try to carry them to our whole life with full honesty and at some point of time there comes a situation when we scared of losing those relations, those peoples which are means a lot to us because we don’t do exactly what they want, because we have to compromise our ethics our way of living to make them happy and all the above we can’t be what we actually are in front of them because it is not acceptable to them.

But the question is what about our own happiness?, why we are busy in pleasing others,?why we are busy in copying other instead of being what you are?, why we are busy in making others happy?, why we are scared of losing peoples? if they are not ours, if they were then they will not let you go. Why we are compromising our goals to make others feel comfortable?, why we are think of society before doing something for ourselves?

We all have our own life, space, desires, goals, habits, hobbies, and some disqualities and all these makes us unique and different from others. But the point is whether we are pursuing all this in living our life. why we are resist to pursue what we love to do. Just give permission to yourself to live freely and on your own rules and on your own space. You don’t have to think about others, you don’t have to explain anything to others. Don’t let anyone give the power to control you. You are alone enough to accomplish your goal, just work hard. You are enough to make yourself happy.

First learn to love yourself then love others. If you can’t love and accept yourself as you are then you can’t achieve anything in your life for sure.  All I want to say is it’s okay to be selfish. It’s okay to be misunderstood.  It’s okay to not to do something and sitting idle for sometime. it’s okay to make changes in your goals, if required. It’s okay to lose someone if it is not worth it. It’s okay to hang out with friends if it makes you happy. It’s okay to have peace in your life as you right to have that. It is fact that you can’t make everyone happy at the same time so it’s okay to make yourself happy and to think about yourself over others.

It’s okay guys if you’re making mistakes in your life because mistakes leads us to the right path. Mistakes teach you the difference between write or wrong and will give you the chances to rise again and to correct. So, according to me-

“NOT MAKING MISTAKES IS YOUR BIGGEST MISTAKE.”

AN IDIOT WITH A PLAN CAN BEAT A GENIUS WITHOUT A PLAN

“A clear vision, backed by definite plans, gives you a tremendous feeling of confidence and personal power.” ― Brian Tracy

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We all are different from each other, may be the skill that I have other person don’t have that skill. If someone is good at studies then other may be good at cooking so our talents are different and these talents and hobbies differentiate us from each other.

We can’t just dream and directly execute without a planning, it will result in failure. To get success we need a proper planning just as for buying house middle class family needs to save money for may be 5-6 years or may be 8-9 years or may be more, so they used planning even to buy a house. This was a living example of planning that we see in our life. So planning is needed at every level of life i.e. in personal life, in professional life etc. Planning is the starting phase which shows the process that will lead us to completion of our dream.

Even in our day to day life we use planning so that we can accomplish the work that we had decided in the morning till the end of the day. So planning is involved even in our daily life Just like that our future is also the result of the planning that we had done in our past. Planning is something that gives us confidence and a feeling of personal power and strength to fight for our dreams and make those dreams successful. When we start the process of achieving something without a proper planning and result is negative then we start regretting and criticizing that we should have done this or that, so it is better to spend time on planning what you can or will do, then on spending time on contemplating on what you should have done. It is well said-

“When you do the things in the present that you can see, you are shaping the future that you are yet to see.”

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In my whole above discussion I was explaining that planning is the key of success. Let’s have example there were two students. One was very intelligent in studies and other was an average. They both were preparing for the same exams. The intelligent one was one spending his more time on enjoying with friends and less time on study as he was thinking that he is good at studies he does not need to spend more time and he did not make any plan which subject he should start first and how much time it will take him to finish that subject so that he can start the other subject also and revisions are also to be done. While the other one who was an average at studies planned his schedule according to the time left for exams and included revision also in the schedule and in the middle of the preparation he felt that some changes to the planning are needed to accomplish the whole syllabus so he made necessary changes and executed that planning in the same way. As a result of this an average one student cleared the exams and passed with good marks because he planned his time in the best way  to get best outcome although he was not so intelligent while the intelligent one got failed because he did not use his time in the best manner.

It is okay to make changes to the planning if needed in the middle of the journey as changes are requirement of time and we should moderate our plan as and when required. One more important thing is that only having a dream in the eyes and planning in mind is not enough also we need to STAY on that planning and follow the each and every step of the planning is important to accomplish the dream and to reach our destination.

At last I will say that whenever you decide to do something in your life whether to own a business or to have a house of your choice or to spend your life enjoying with the friends or anything else, then your choices and   actions are shaping your future as well as your family’s future so, just plan your actions or your life accordingly that what you are doing? and where you wants to go? And how you will reach there? So that you can achieve it on time and in the same manner as you want and it causes no harm to you and your closed ones. Someone rightly said that-

“By Failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”

                                                                             – Benjamin Franklin